Why Overwhelm Isn’t Your Fault: The Invisible Mental Load of Motherhood
What Is the Invisible Mental Load in Motherhood?
Motherhood isn’t just about nappies, meals, and school runs. It’s also about the mental checklist that never ends. This is what we call the invisible mental load — the planning, remembering, and emotional energy that keeps everything running smoothly.
It looks like:
remembering when the fridge needs restocking,
keeping track of school events,
scheduling appointments,
balancing your family’s needs with your own.
This work is often unseen, but it takes a huge toll on your mind and body.
Why Mums Feel Overwhelmed
If you’ve ever wondered why you feel drained before the day even begins, the answer often lies in the mental load of motherhood. Carrying the invisible load can lead to:
constant feelings of overwhelm,
mental exhaustion and irritability,
guilt for not “handling it better,”
and a loss of identity beyond motherhood.
It’s important to remember: you are not failing. You’re simply carrying too much.
Gentle Ways to Lighten the Load
Overwhelm isn’t solved by doing more — it’s softened by finding support and creating simple, nurturing routines. Here are some gentle steps you can try:
Pause for a breath — even a few deep breaths can reset your nervous system.
Write down your mental list — getting it onto paper clears space in your mind.
Ask for support — whether from your partner, family, or community, you don’t have to carry it alone.
Give yourself permission to rest — you matter as much as everyone else in your home.
You’re Not Alone in This Journey
At Glow Gentle Collective, I support mothers who feel overwhelmed, stretched thin, and unseen. Through gentle coaching, resources, and safe spaces, I help mums reconnect with themselves and find calm within the chaos.
Free Gift for You
If this resonates, I’ve created a free resource to support you right now: 10 Calm Down Moments for Busy Mums. It’s filled with simple practices you can reach for in the middle of daily overwhelm.
Overwhelm isn’t your fault. The invisible load is real. And you deserve a gentle space to breathe again.
With softness,
Naomi 🌸
Glow Gentle Collective